Should Parents Tell Their Children the Truth About Santa?

For many people, Santa is a cherished part of their holiday traditions. They remember writing letters and mailing them to the North Pole, leaving out milk and cookies, and running downstairs on Christmas morning to see what Santa had left for them under the tree.

However, ask a few adults about how they reacted when they found out Santa wasn’t real, and you’ll see far different emotions. Some were sad, some were angry, and almost all of them felt that learning the truth about Santa ushered them into a new era of childhood, one where adults couldn’t be trusted completely.

Trust, Truth-Telling, and Fantasy vs. Reality

The issue boils down to whether it’s appropriate for parents to tell their children to believe in falsehoods. Sooner or later, the child discovers that Santa Claus isn’t ‘real’, but during the most formative years, small children are generally inept at distinguishing between fantasy and reality. Developing this ability is extremely important to mental growth, and the question parents needs to be asking themselves is whether, when their child achieves this ability to distinguish fact from fiction, the child should have to cope with the strange concept that the parent has told a lie.

Any parent who has tried to comfort a small child back to sleep when the little one is having terrifying thoughts about the Big Bad Wolf knows that our best tactic is to assure the child that the Big Bad Wolf is not real. In order for the child to believe us about this, he must trust us as sources of truthful information. Our role becomes rather complicated if, on the one hand, we tell that child that one fantasy is false while we teach them that another is true. What message do we give about reality by saying that monsters are imaginary but that Santa Claus is real? Maria Montessori strongly cautioned against leading children to believe that fantasy was reality, believing that it made it harder for children to distinguish between the two and led to issues of trust later on.

My children trust me to care for them, love them, protect them, and answer their questions truthfully. I don’t take that trust lightly. Rather, I go out of my way to show them that I am trustworthy and that I mean what I say. This means that they can come to me for information about any subject, knowing that I will do my best to answer honestly, or to help them find the correct answer if I don’t know it myself. Why should the myth of Santa Claus be exempt from the trust pact that I have with my children?

Is the Santa Myth Necessary?

“But it’s fun to believe in Santa when you’re little. I don’t want to be a killjoy and spoil that for my kid,” some parents are apt to argue. That leads to another question: Do kids have to believe that Santa is real in order to fully enjoy Christmas? Since most parents don’t tell their children the truth (even when asked directly), how can they be sure that not knowing is such a bad thing?

The holidays are full of wonderful, meaningful traditions. From Advent calendars to baking cookies, from caroling to decorating the tree, children can participate in just about every aspect of Christmas. If they know that presents come from family and friends, does it make gift-opening less exciting? In my own household, where my children do know the truth about Santa, I can assure you that they rip open the presents as joyfully and gleefully as any children I’ve ever seen.

Truth is More Interesting than Fiction

If you have determined, as I have, that it is not in your child’s best interest to pass on the myth of ‘real Santa’, you will meet with a big dilemma everywhere you go during the holiday season. The commercialization of Christmas has put a Santa Claus on every TV channel, in every shop window, and into the minds of nearly all children. You can’t realistically ignore Santa Claus. Your child will be coming to you with questions, rest assured. You can be prepared to answer those questions well if you do your research now. I hope the following information will be of interest and use to you:

In the early 19th century, the Brothers Grimm and the team of Asbornsen and Moe set to work collecting the fragments of Northern European fairy tales into collected bodies of literature. From the work of these interesting men, we get the creative but often shockingly violent tales of Cinderella, Snow White, The Three Billy-Goats Gruff and the like. The eminent philologist, Professor Thomas Shippey, has recently written about the motives behind these men’s endeavors. Far from attempting to invent stories for little children, they were doing a kind of archaeological rescue work to preserve the last remnants of Germany and Scandinavia’s most ancient folklore. The cultural roots of these seemingly bizarre tales, populated with dwarves, elves and trolls, go very deep.

A single example will suffice to explain the historical importance of this work. Let us look at the idea of dwarves. The Disney cartoon Snow White introduced most mid-20th century Americans to the idea of short, bearded men who work in mines. What few people realize is that this is an idea with amazingly antique origins. Classic Dark Ages and Medieval literature is full of dwarves. Everything from the Norse Sagas of Iceland to the Celtic Arthurian legends feature dwarves intermixed with ‘normal’ people, without any hint of this being fantastical. The research of men like Professor Shippey suggests that, rather than being a creature of imagination, a dwarf may very well have been a type of human being – possibly a race of people with congenital dwarfism.

What does this mean for us? It means that many popular myths of our day – fairy tales, legends – spring out of truth. The stories may be embellished over centuries of oral storytelling, but they arise from real people and real situations. That is not fantasy – it is anthropology. Perhaps by encouraging your child in the pursuit of whole truths, you can right the mistakes of the past. Who knows; you may end up with a world-class linguist, archaeologist or anthropologist in the family!

The Real Santa Claus

For Christians, Christ is the central figure of Christmas. In many modern Christian homes, Santa Claus has been allowed to vie with the Nativity as the focus of Christmas, and in most non-Christian homes, Santa is the unchallenged symbol of the day. All parents must decide for themselves which traditions they wants to pass on to their children, but again, the obligation is ours to choose wisely. If we decide not to pass on the Santa myth as truth, we have an option to view this old tradition as an exciting learning opportunity for our children.

As is the case with the stranger-than-fiction world of fairy tales, the character of Santa Claus has rather fascinating origins. Why not share these facts with your child, and together you can decide how you would like to think about Santa Claus:

  • Saint Nicholas of Myra was a 4th century Christian bishop who became beloved for his acts of charity to the poor.
  • The Pre-Christian peoples of Northern Europe celebrated a winter festival called Yule. Ancient Norse children set their boots by the fire filled with carrots and straw to feed Slepnir, the flying horse of the Norse god, Odin. Their legend was that Odin would fly by and leave gifts in the boots in return for the horse feed.
  • In Finland, people had the folktale of Joulupukki, a peculiar character with horns who delivered gifts on Christmas Eve.
  • The Dutch tradition of Sinterklaas, a green-robed sailor, is the origin of the name ‘Santa Claus’.
  • The English conception of Father Christmas dates back to the 1600’s. He is a jovial, rotund figure garbed in fur-trimmed green robes.
  • These and other European myths combined to create the Victorian-era Santa Claus of the United States, which has become the commercial Santa Claus of today.
  • As conscientious parents and teachers, we strive to encourage youth appreciation of world cultures. By taking this approach, Santa Claus becomes an educational celebration of varied culture rather than a debate about truth and falsehood. By introducing children to the concept of Santa Claus as an old and fascinating myth, you can share the idea in a good way, without having to tell them to believe in something that isn’t true.

    Few of us would have the goal of teaching children that Odin and his flying horse really exist. Rather, we come to such subjects with an enjoyment of the charm of antiquity. We can help children to tap into this source of pleasure as well, while keeping their formative years firmly grounded in the truth. Far from killing joy, we are planting great seeds of intellectual vigor, inquisitiveness and a love of learning.

    You might also be interested in a follow-up to this post, called Taking a Look at Santa Again.

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    24 Responses to “Should Parents Tell Their Children the Truth About Santa?”

    • Gwyn said at November 26th, 2007 at 12:03 am :

      Fantastic summary. We are trying to celebrate the seasons with our kids but also not alientate them from a christian society. I was planning on explaning Santa as a figment of imagination – and perhaps a little later as a demonstration of the concept that your thoughts create your world – if you believe in something hard enough it may just materialise (could be problems with that though – not sure yet). Either way – I know I was pissed when I was told about Santa – I remember to this day my Dad giving me the “but I still believe in Santa” lecture to guilt me into believing so I wouldn’t spoil it for my siblings!

    • Lori Bourne said at November 26th, 2007 at 7:38 am :

      I know, it’s so hard to strike a balance. I was one of those kids who figured out that Santa wasn’t real early on (and my family never made a big deal of him) and it was a little strange that my friends believed in him. But I never told anyone!

    • Julie said at November 26th, 2007 at 8:20 am :

      these are good thoughts. Hubby and I have been discussing “Santa” this weekend.

    • Anonymous said at November 26th, 2007 at 9:00 am :

      I believed not only in Santa Claus but also in fairies.To me it was a magical time when the realities of the world did not interfere with the what ifs…
      I believe that the surprise Fairy Party that my Mom staged one warm summer morning helped increase my imagination and was one of the reasons I love to write fun fictional stories and poems for my Grandchildren.

    • jessica said at November 26th, 2007 at 10:41 am :

      I remember figuring out that Santa wasn’t real and telling my mom I had figured it out. There was no lecture not to tell my younger brothers, but I was included in on the fun. I got to give my parents inside information on what would be an especially good surprise for my brothers. Or give them (Santa) little things I hoped would show up in their stockings. “Santa” still came and brought me presents– set in a magical arrangement on my spot when I came down the stairs Christmas morning until I left home. My brothers and I all really knew Santa wasn’t real, but the element of play and surprise still remained.

      My children now like to be “secret elves” and clean up their toys or do other things they know might make me happy. They often do it in plain sight and tell me to pretend I can’t see them. When they’re finished I act genuinely surprised and excited by the clean floor or set table. “How did it get so clean?!” “The secret elves did it!” is the reply. This falsehood isn’t wrong or damaging to them, it brings fun and joy into serving each other.

      We always buy and make several gifts every year to help Santa give gifts to less fortunate families at church. Then we get to be the best secret elves of all– Santa!

      Letting the commercialism of Santa take over the Christmas holiday is the last thing a parent should allow. Personally, though, I think keeping the element of magical play adds to the fun of the celebration.

    • Lori Bourne said at November 26th, 2007 at 2:38 pm :

      Maria Montessori said that when children believe fantasies are real, they’re not actually using their imagination. It’s the parents who are doing the imagining!

      I enjoyed fairy tales quite a bit as a child, but after I knew the difference between fantasy and reality. I have an extremely vivid imagination, and I definitely think that contributed to it.

    • Talia said at November 26th, 2007 at 7:12 pm :

      Great topic!!
      I am a “truth teller” to my children and I have made this important comittment to them.

      When Santa (and similar myths) arise in our discussions, I utilise the phrase “Some people believe”.
      This allows me to explain the myth to them and allows them to decide what they think/believe.
      It also enables them to understand and appreciate differences in people’s beliefs (eg well meaning adults telling them to be “good” or santa wont come or their friends firm belief in santa etc!)

      Above all I am always honest with them and tell them what I believe.

      The factual history of Xmas is also a great way to explain how the myths arise.

      By the way, my kids enjoy Xmas as much as I did (I was sold the Santa myth)!!

    • ~L~ said at November 26th, 2007 at 7:44 pm :

      My children believe in Santa.

      We’re (dh and I) of the folk who believe Santa = action of the Christmas spirit. The goal, if it goes well, is that our children will phase into the “aha!” moment of realizing that parents are Santa and hopefully, take up that mantle themselves. I was heartbroken when I found out Santa wasn’t “real.” The grownups handled it horribly (my teacher told me and my mother was baffled by my grief), and had done much specifically to make Santa that jolly old Saint. We take great pleasure in pointing out all the media Santas, and how much they differ from each other. Sooner or later, the logic is going to kick in– if Santa is unique to the vision of the imaginer, then Santa must be ….something other than substantial.

      Sometimes I do feel guilty about it. However, this is one of the areas where I do depart from Montessori and I am ok with that division. I like the fantasy life part of childhood, where for one fleeting time in your life, magic can be real.

      Great topic!

    • susan said at November 27th, 2007 at 3:52 am :

      I agree with everyhting you’ve said. I have never addressed any of this with DD4 who just believes because others believe and ds figured it out at 6! He is greatly concerned that we are “lying” to his sister. Trying to figure out how to handle this without a 4 yr old spoiling it for other children. I was devastated at finding out my parents had lied to me. This year could make or break Santa for us.

    • Lori Bourne said at November 27th, 2007 at 3:55 pm :

      ~l~, your comment is so interesting. On one hand, you said that you were devastated when you found out the truth, on the other you are letting your children believe in Santa. Are you hoping that they react better than you do?

      While some kids are able to figure it out (how can Santa bring all these toys to millions of home in one night??), many do not. I remember one sixth grade boy at a school where I taught. He was adamant that Santa was real. He was very intelligent and well-read, which made it even stranger that he hadn’t figured it out yet.

      I remember thinking, as I watched him argue vehemently with his classmates, how embarrassed he was going to be in a year or two when he found out the truth. I just can’t see putting my kids in that position.

    • Andrea said at November 27th, 2007 at 9:15 pm :

      That was a very interesting article Lori! Its funny our kids believed in Santa despite the fact that we didn’t encourage it at all. My oldest figured it out at age 5 when he saw the wrapping paper in the basement that matched the paper under the tree. It was funny b/c I never told him the gifts were from Santa or anything, he just picked that up from the culture. Anyway I was relieved he figured it out b/c he was starting to ask very detailed questions about the North Pole and how reindeer fly etc. I wasn’t comfortable presenting the fantasy as fact, but also didn’t want to “spoil” the fun for him by telling him there is no santa. Now that he knows (and he couldn’t resist telling his younger brother) we discuss the Saint Nicholas connection that you mentioned. I do respect those parents who keep the belief going longer, and I am trying to impress on my boys not to let the cat out of the bag.

    • Christine said at November 28th, 2007 at 11:05 am :

      My sister is a “truth-teller” parent and she and her husband always presented Santa as something that “some people believe,” really expecting their son to come to the conclusion that the story was not true. But at the age of six my nephew announced that he believed that Santa was real.” At nine, he is still a believer. To me, this confirms my belief that children (though maybe only some children, I will allow) really respond to and, in fact, crave myth and fantasy. And it is a beautiful story, after all.

      I have told the Santa story to my daughter, who is four. I have not spun elaborate tales. The Christmas when she was 2 1/2, I told her the basics of the story (North Pole, sleigh, reindeer, chimney, presents, the joy of giving) and read her lots of Christmas books featuring, in many cases of course, Santa. But ever since then we really just ask her questions about what she thinks. “Who do you think that is?” as we pass the Santa in the mall, for example. So she is spinning the myth for herself and putting together bits and pieces from books and songs that she hears.

    • jenmack said at December 4th, 2007 at 2:12 pm :

      There are some really good thoughts here. I find myself straddling this fence, with one child on one side, and one on the other, a toddler unaware and baby on the way. I clearly need to give this a bit more thought. We definitely emphasize more of the meaning of Christmas, without really speaking of Santa at all – we do talk/read a lot about St. Nicholas. But, I do get your point about the smudging of the lines between fantasy and reality, and the importance for children to always know that they can count on us for a truthful explanation. It was painful when my oldest dd found out – and it was then that I really began to question the wisdom of passing on this traditional falsehood to my children. Another very thought provoking post for me Lori! Thanks.

    • Kate said at December 13th, 2007 at 12:12 am :

      I teach my children about Saint Nicholas and how he became a legend.. His name simply got a bit distorted along the way and the many dressed up Santas that we see during Christmas are people who continue to celebrate the spirit of Saint Nicholas’s good work.

      Also, almost all of the gifts that they get at Christmas are from close relative. There is always a very small gift that is not labeled and I simply say that I don’t know who it is from. That’s the end of it.

      They can think what they want but I don’t get too involved in the deception.

      My children love Christmas and the time we spend with family. As children who don’t watch any TV or movies at home they are not too concerned about what Santa will bring them. When my boys were 4 and 6 they told a community Christmas party Santa they didn’t need anything for Christmas. When I asked them if they would like a new truck they told me that they didn’t because they already had a truck at home. My neighbor’s no-tv child wanted a pair of pants.

      The type of story I share with my children similar to this one that I found at http://www.stnicholascenter.org/Brix?pageID=38.

      “His wealthy parents, who raised him to be a devout Christian, died in an epidemic while Nicholas was still young. Obeying Jesus’ words to “sell what you own and give the money to the poor,” Nicholas used his whole inheritance to assist the needy, the sick, and the suffering. He dedicated his life to serving God and was made Bishop of Myra while still a young man. Bishop Nicholas became known throughout the land for his generosity to the those in need, his love for children, and his concern for sailors and ships.”

      Thanks sharing these ideas. I’m always happy to know that there are others like us.

    • ~L~ said at December 19th, 2007 at 10:57 am :

      ~l~, your comment is so interesting. On one hand, you said that you were devastated when you found out the truth, on the other you are letting your children believe in Santa. Are you hoping that they react better than you do?

      I am expecting them to handle it better than I did. My grief was because I had been taught– somewhat forcefully– that Santa was a real, flesh and blood person who lives in the North Pole with feelings. My teacher told me he wasn’t real, which meant the death of Santa and the beginning of parents-as-liars. I won’t get into my childhood dynamic, but let’s just say it wasn’t a happy household. If my mother felt Santa might not come because of financial reasons, she’d turn it on me and my “naughtiness,” to “prepare me” for Santa not coming.

      When my teacher told me and I was so sad, my mother was cruel about it and told me I was too smart to believe in Santa anyway. She did not care that a dream had died or that I was hurting.

      My children’s version of Santa is quite a bit less Draconian than my mother’s, needless to say. I am very careful to tell them I don’t know what Santa looks like or how exactly he operates because I have never seen him in action. Pointing out the media discrepancies, hopefully, is forming a base of understanding that Santa is perceived by the individual. The question then becomes “what do these Santas have in common?”

      When they find out / are told that the red suit guy is mythology, we will be quick to assert that Santa IS real, as the spirit of Christmas in action. Hopefully for them it won’t be a death, but a different way of perceiving things.

    • Anonymous said at December 21st, 2007 at 11:10 pm :

      At Kinderhaus we talk about people who have come to our home in NA all year long. We look at what they eat, wear and live and especially what they do for fun. That includes their traditions and stories. Sharing the St Nicholas of Turkey (Izmir), Father Christmas, St Nick etc is really no different than talking about Zeus or Odin. The problem with Santa is that in the US Santa becomes a god in himself – knowing all, giving all, transcending space in an instant. It’s no wonder children are upset when they discover Santa is a story. The point really should be helping children understand about giving (not getting!) because afterall – God, Giving His Best is what Christmas is all about.

    • Evan and Sachi said at December 29th, 2007 at 1:02 am :

      Enjoyed my first visit to your site.

      As a Montessorian, I also recognize the implications of “the truth about Santa” as holding potentially significant implications regarding parenting and development (fantasy & commercial). As a faithful and spiritual person who is non-christian, I appreciate this topic as I prepare for parenthood for my first time. I value an educational or ‘anthropological’ outlook and aspire to provide the children in my care with rich learning opportunities. In my developing parenting mindset, I will try to recognize the origins and differences in the world’s traditions while emphasizing the universal, shared spirit behind them.

    • Clint said at October 23rd, 2008 at 8:46 pm :

      Maria Montessori strongly cautioned against leading children to believe that fantasy was reality, believing that it made it harder for children to distinguish between the two and led to issues of trust later on.

      We’ve had our kids in Montessori since they were 3 and 4–they’re now, as of today, 7 and 8–and had never known this about Montessori. Unfortunately we found out the hard way, in that our kids, who still believe in Santa though are beginning to question, were told by their new teacher (six weeks) that Santa Claus isn’t alive. My bottom line is this: If that’s the case, especially since Montessori education starts with such young ages, Montessori schools ought to make that part of their philosophy known up front. The divulging of that kind of information should be left to the parents, and if they’re not going to leave it to parents, they should let the parents know at the outset.

      As much of a fan as I am of Montessori-style education, I happen to believe Maria Montessori was seriously off-base on this point. Imagination is something to embrace and encourage, not stifle too soon with the reality of the world. Not only does it deny children the only time in their lives they’ll be able to enjoy their imagination as innocently and joyfully as only a child can, it ignores the fact that reality will set in soon enough all by itself, particularly in our 21st century world. Coming to realize the borders of reality and imagination on one’s own is a vital and empowering part of life. That there are adults who believe in fantastic things they might or might not be better off believing doesn’t mean they were taught to believe too much in imagination, only that they weren’t taught to believe well enough in the world as it is. The well-bred mind can make that distinction for itself without having to be told from the earliest age that fantasy is bunk. Childhood is for children, not miniature adults.

      I’m going to have to seriously question the new school we’re interviewing on Monday to determine just how much weight this mindset is given in their school, because if it’s much more than none, I’ll have to seriously consider homeschooling. If I wanted my children to grow up that fast that way, I’d have put them in public school.

    • Originalkat said at February 21st, 2009 at 12:09 am :

      I grew up knowing that Santa was just another fun thing we thought about and pretended at Christmas. I never remember ‘finding out’ about Santa, so I suppose my parents just always told us it was a fun thing to make believe but Santa was not real. I plan on doing the same with my children; however, my husbands family strongly encourage telling children that Santa is real. My kids are 3 and 1 so it hasn’t really come up yet. But, I know I need to tell my kids the truth and not lie just for the sake of other peoples comfort level. Plus I don’t think it ruins the fun at all… as a child, I always put out the milk and cookies Christmas eve for dad…oops I mean Santa.

    • maryann said at December 16th, 2011 at 10:31 am :

      I’m sorry but I refuse to lie about Santa. I’m all for telling kids about the origins of Saint Nicholas, and how that game of “telephone” turned him into Santa with flying reindeer. That’s fine.

      I remember as a kid my parents insisting he was real for many many years despite my skepticism. I remember how awful I felt when I finally begged them to tell me the truth, because I felt that all the grown ups were laughing at us kids and lying on purpose to humiliate us. That’s an awful feeling.That’s how i remember the Santa lies.

      I cannot do that to other children. Kids do have dignity, and to blatantly lie to them (while teaching them lying is bad) is ridiculous! I’d rather they know the truth and giggle to themselves that they are lucky enough know the truth.

      The holiday has no real bearing on who Santa Claus is so telling the truth does not ruin the holiday at all. I’m not religious. I’d rather explain about what the holiday season means to different people and let them decide how they would like to celebrate it. if a child can have a conversation about it with you at the age of 5, they can help determine what they think is special about it and parents can build on that from there – creating special memories for that child that promote honesty and real celebration.

    • Amy said at December 8th, 2012 at 8:09 am :

      Interesting post, and great discussion. I’m reposting a comment I made on the Facebook link to this post:

      [And to summarize -- I think it's simplistic to take a truth vs. fantasy approach, given that 'pure' truths are rather uncommon. And I agree with the commenter above who said Maria M. was off-base on her claims about the power (not to mentionveracity!) of truth claims.]

      I find the Elf on a Shelf creepy. It’s not that it can be made to get into mischief overnight — that’s kind of cute. It’s the idea that the Elf is used as a surveillance tool. Not cool, to inculcate kids with the notion that they should be obedient only because they are being watched.

      I have nothing against kids believing in Santa — little children are natural pretenders, and fantasy is often as real to them as the physical world around them. It’s also a vital way to learn, explore, develop a sense of self and others, empathy, ethics, etc.. In this context, I see folks who loudly declaim their disbelief in Santa (or other fantasy figures) to those who believe in them as pedants suffering from a tinge of sadism. And yup, this includes Richard Dawkins, whose polemic atheism is no less fundamentalist than the pushers of any uptight religion. [And I say this as an atheist-leaning agnostic.]

      Like other commenters here, we introduce cultural fantasy figures to our daughter by referring to “people who believe in … [God, Santa, the Tooth Fairy, Dr. Who, etc.]” It’s important to us that she understand that/why many people/cultures base their identities on such figures. To simply discredit/deny such figures without explaining why they matter to many people is to perpetuate a potential cultural harm, and certainly doesn’t help a kid understand that many wars are fought because some culture wanted to shove its religion down another’s throat — or felt its religion was being suppressed.

      At the moment, my four year old ‘believes’ in Santa, although we’ve always and only introduced him as a figure some people believe in. She is young enough — and open enough — to suspend her underlying disbelief for the purpose of what amounts to play. And this suspension has made room for us to talk about the ‘real’ St. Nicholas, who gave generously to the poor, and St. Francis (another real person, in the historic sense) who fed the animals and birds, and the meaning of gifts (and Gifts).

      To me, it’s not whether or why a kid believes in Santa — it’s what can be done with the fantasy that matters. And in this sense I suspect folks who find useful ways to channel their kid’s belief in any given cultural fantasy as doing something more than those who would simply deny and denigrate it.

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    • Catherine said at November 8th, 2013 at 12:48 pm :

      I think a lot depends on the age of the kids. It’s possibly a damaging lie when parents sustain it too long, for example, 8 year olds are uncomfortable with the fantasy and feel betrayed if if their parents won’t tell the truth.

      So the discerning factor is to let it be fun for a while, but not too long. If managed unfanatically, kids just find out it’s not true and then get on with things. I found out at about six, but I don’t even remember even believing it much, it wasn’t a big thing. It also depends on the context you’re in.

      I’m in Africa with snowmen decorations on trees. Still not sure if i can get into the Christmas spirit of Santa; i like the idea offered of having a present from someone whom you don’t know. Thanks for all your opinions, ideas and advice

    • G.J.D, said at December 7th, 2013 at 11:12 am :

      When a child is brought into the world, they no nothing of Christmas. It’s adults that condition a child to what is or what isn’t about it. I think if you just simply tell a child that Christmas is a day that family gets together and exchanges gifts and have a nice meal after that, Children will enjoy the holiday just as much without bringing a Santa into it because they are focused on the gifts more then anything.

      If you stop and think about it, Santa is more for the adults pleasure then the children.
      What amazes me is parents that are non-religious will tell their kids that the birth of Baby Jesus is myth or fairytale but will say Santa Claus is real (if only for a the first few years of a child’s life)